Relationships in the Pagan World

Hey Hey Everyone! This is Asdea your Texas Talker!

This post topic has recently caught my attention due to the many cropping ups on the worlds Pagan Pod casts. Relationships, Pagan or otherwise.

It has come to my attention that many "famous" Pagans in the podcast business have been receiving emails about relationship problems related to the fact that some are pagan or are wanting to be pagan.
Obviously this is a major problem. I agree with a certain individual that said:

"We are not licensed to deal with these sort of problems."

Some of us may not be able to deal with these problems but we are aloud to offer our opinions and advise though we can not be in anyway blamed for the outcome if such advises are followed.
These people have been put is a horrible position in their life, no doubt, and they may not feel that they are able, or are unable, to get out of these situations alone.
If those people feel that they need to get out then try to offer a helping hand. If they refuse such help then wait a little while and offer it again. If they refuse a second time then it may be that they do not feel that they need help. Sometimes it is better to let people take care of themselves.
If these situations get violent, such as abuse, verbal or physical, then it is your duty to get them out of there as soon as possible.

Who am I to say whether a relationship to other peoples liking. I am nobody, an anonymous voice in the dark striving to be heard.

I go by what I feel and what I think I know, from my experiences, personal and otherwise. I have seen what abusive relationships can be like and they are not a good place to go to. These people who are stuck in these places have their reasons that may seem perfectly good reasons to them but may not make any sense to us at all. Let them be for the time being and see where it gets them. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger, no?

Most of what I have written has little or nothing to do with Pagan relationships. Well let me start with a personal experience.
I am dating a wonderful person who just so happens to be a Christian. This relationship is not an abusive one, nor is it a completely happy one for the either of us. At the beginning relationship I had suspected, well more like expected, that this significant other was a Christian and personally I have no problem with that, other then the fact that I am a Pagan and I didn't know how it would end between us because of the fact. I told this person from the very start that I was a Pagan. At first this person assured me that it was fine that he was very open minded and had no problem with this fact. I soon learned the truth....
We were talking on the phone one night and the conversation was a continuance of one that we had over Text messaging earlier in the day. I was telling this person about the details of my religion. Who I worship, how and otherwise. Well in the phone conversation he came out and said that he was not completely comfortable with me being Pagan, and his concerns were genuine. He stated that he feared for me. That he didn't want me going to Hell. Well needless to say that if there is such a place, as directed by the Bible, that I would be going there because of my sexuality. I did infact point this out and that made him falter for a few seconds, he then continued on the fact that this God loves me for who I am and that I would be accepted into this Heaven no mattter the sexuality. Can you see where the relationship can be centered on Paganism.
Well we have gotten past that particular road bump and have been going strong soa far.

Well that is allt he time I have for this one because I have a phone call.

Blessed be and may the eternal light less your passage.

Yuletide Fires (Yule 2008) Post # 1

Hey Hey Everyone! This is Asdea your Texas Talker!
Quite a lot of happenings this week!
My Rundown:Spent the weekend in San Antonio, Texas! Woot!Came home Sunday and spent a whole 20 minutes there!Was whisked off to my classes Yule Party!

That was the highlight of the weekend and it only got better!Yule has been the day I have been looking forward too since Samhain. And this year it was a big one!I got home from my three hour trip and I was exhausted. And of course I got home just in time for the Yule celebration, which was what I was planning, what I wasn't planning was being that exhausted.Well, back to the topic of this rambling. I caught a ride to the Yule celebration with a friend of mine, It was at the pagan shop owner's house. We got there and we were all just hanging out and getting the food ready and talking and laughing and having a good time. It was major fun and totally fabuloso (Spanish for Fabulous lol). Anyway the time came when we all gathered around for the ritual, and this is where it really gets exciting. A girl at the ritual got the task of cleansing us all with sage, can you see where this is heading? That went alright everyone was cleansed and everything as she went to put it out in the garden out in the front. We all gathered round to start raising energy and to build a circle. "Hand in Hand we cast the circle." So on and so forth. In the middle of it we heard a crackling. We all thought that it was the owners cat, Zeus, playing with something. Well we continued on for a few seconds, but the cracking wouldn't stop, we got timid and started to search for the cause of the noise. Zeus was not around. One of the women at the celebration cried out "Fire!" We panicked. Out of the front window I saw a great big fire! The hedges in the front garden had caught ablaze and was quickly growing. We PANICKED! Everyone was running around getting out of the house and a girl called 9-1-1 and got the fire department called, it was right down the street so it shouldn't have taken them as long as it had for them to get there. We all ran out of the front door straight past the fire. What had gotten caught was the Boxwood bushes in the front, which is an elder wood, scary, right?Then came a good Samaritan! A man had saw the flames before we did and had stopped to put them out, what a sweet man.
So, everyone rushing to put out the fire before it caught on the house. They got water hoses and put out the fire. I myself ran to the kitchen and did the stupidest thing, I found a pitcher and filled it with water form the sink, talk about having a blond moment. (laugh) The owner, Deborah is her name, got a felt blanket, felt not much smarter then me but she had good reason, she was in danger of losing her home, to beat out the fire. Well once we got the hoses going we got the fire out. Now there is a huge crater in her bushes, darkened with soot and charred branches. Wayne, the overly optimistic druid, suggested that Deborah take some mood from the burnt bush and make wands, We are just now at making wands in the class. So after we got the fire out the fire department finally arrives, from five blocks down. Tsk, tsk, tsk, they really need to do their job better, dont you think? Well anyway, Deborah's daughter goes to her and says, "They are going to come in here..." (We had alter and everything set up.) "... What are you going to tell them?" "I don't know, I will tell them that a cigarette caused it." And that is exactly what she told them.
I would have told them the truth, it is not like we were doing anything wrong, we were legally protected to do exactly what we were doing. Anyways, so we got all that done and had returned inside to continue. Well we had opted to eat before we continued, we really didn't need all the jittery excited energy we had to contaminate our calm in the circle. All the food was good, and we had calmed down enough to make jokes about the whole situation. I made one that everyone particularly found hilarious. I said, "Can you see the headlines tomorrow? 'Local witches catch the hedges on fire while doing their magickal rituals!'" Haha! Funny, right?Well, after a while, after eating and calming down, we decided to start ritual again. Everything was perfect from then on. We all participated in the making of the circle, calling the corners, the deities and we did a neat meditation and spell.The whole thing was just exciting and I had a lot of fun. It was my first Yule with others and I liked it! It was great fun!Well that was my Yule. I would like to hear about yours if you dont mind.
This has been the first segment of Texas Talks. The next one will be written and posted on the 5th next month.

If you have any idea on the next topic, or if I find one that particularly catches my interest, that will be the next topic.Merry Meet, Merry Part, and Merry Meet Again. Blessed be all!